Just dropping a comment i posted where I worked some shit out on my experience as a mix race person.
I am writing with honesty and hope that will be seen as the utmost respect for my community.
As a mix race woman… I remember in middle school a group of black girls came up to me and asked why I wasn’t sitting with them for lunch because they saw my mother (who is black) visit the school. My assumption was because they didn’t like me. lol.
We were in a small college town and that was my first taste of solidarity as they invited me to have lunch with them.
Growing into my adulthood and politic self…. I understood that we need to all come together and embraced the term “woman of color” as it was a term that women of many ethnicity were “uniting” under.
This was refined in understanding that I DO NOT HAVE the same experience as a black woman and skin/tone privilege is more real than it is a burden.
I mean even my own family my cuz who is a black woman shouted i was white…. It was hurtful because I felt that she was someone who knew me the most and was misidentifying me to be hurtful. I just stood there looking at her like we both have the same light skin grandma.
I feel like a some years ago, we called out people for not claiming their black heritage….. Then more recently tell folks to have several seats about their blackness….. Because they don’t know what it is like to be black (of a darker skin tone) in the world.
And I don’t, that is real and true. So as “woman of color”….. The daughter of a single black mother…. I am trying to manage through the ethic matrixes while building community.