Spiritual Forum: Do “Empaths” divide?


Someone made the post above in a forum

My Response: I think in the spiritual community we tend to be a bit vague…. General …. Visual…. So if someone shares their story….. Yes it may “attach” to someone. Not some evil black slithering smoke coming through the screen. But if one is not strong spiritually themselves YES they can also be triggered. I would rather someone unload their burdensome darkness…. Then read half the fake news with insane images that I can’t even filter seeing on Facebook alone. So let’s not silence each other and call it empathy……. Let’s not say our own tenderness…. Our triggers are empathic abilities….. Because empathy is allowing each other to heal knowing how much that shit really and truly hurts.

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I know in a lot if communities for me that was/is the Queer community often “trigger warnings” were practices in mosts posts as we know not everyone has dealt with their truama or there effects. This allows for people to be both concious of others as well as open about their own trauma which I believe is a good practice. 

I tend to practice this in my daily life. For instance I’m not going to talk too much about death, or my views of death, or too many triggering memories about my grandma with my mom ….. But I will listen. I might pick another venue for that because I know she is still healing. And people heal differently and it simply take a mindfulness.

My blog is abrasive and unfiltered and a fraction of what I experience….. But I have to put it out there…. Not because I want to “spread my darkness” but to release myself from it.

And yes “darkness” can gain inspiration from anywhere. I know mine has. Especially from those I love so it can “hurt more”.
But this idea that Empaths need to be separated ….. Is … Divisive. It keeps us more separate. Being “Empathic”… I would assume means actually being empathic for other beings. And maybe as “Empaths” we/ or they need to really look at the anxiety and precieved triggered darkness that they “absorb” from “everyone”. 

How do they know this is not their own darkness taking advantage of that beautiful soul… To keep us separated from one another…. To silence us…. And in turn silence others. 

Just scrolling through a Facebook feed is a machine gun of triggers. I know mine. They are the same that is in this blog. No I don’t want to read that article with details of a rape victim. I don’t …. Doesn’t mean I’m less empathetic…. But I does mean I know my limits. At the same time I respect that persons ability to speak out…. Unlike I did… And realize it is something with in myself …. “My own darkness” triggering the gore of such a traumatic event.

Don’t let our “empathy” divide us. Take care of yourself…. But don’t let that cut us off from a world…. Don’t let our own darkness … Or fear of it silence others who are removing the shackles.

I understand the both sides of the coin. 

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